A pastor based in the capital city of Kenya; Nairobi has been left in a sorrowful mood as his friend who even acted as his bestman during his wedding has snatched away his wife.
Pastor Gilbert Manyasi recounted how he was initially happy to meet a woman who was deeply committed to the church.
To him, his now ex wife was a loving woman, rooted in Christian values, and she was also part of the praise and worship team.
The couple fell in love, began dating, and looked forward to tying the knot one day. They visited each other occasionally to keep the flame of their relationship alive.
However, in 2019, Manyasi found a disturbing text message sent to Brenda by another man.
She came to visit me. A man called her, but she didn’t answer. I then saw the texts between them, with the man expressing how much he had missed her. He called her ‘babe’ and asked where she was,” the pastor shared.
He admitted to confronting her about the issue, but she did not respond and instead went to bed. The next morning, she left the house and returned three days later with her brother-in-law to pick up some of her belongings.
Manyasi thought the relationship was over, until three months later when she returned, claiming she was pregnant with his child.
Despite not knowing where Brenda had been during their three-month separation, Manyasi welcomed her back and accepted the child as his own, as they had been involved sexually.
Life seemed to settle for the couple as the father of one continued with his pastoral duties and even opened his own church. They eventually officially married in December 2021.
As time went by, their love deepened, and they became a happy family of three. In an effort to empower Brenda, Manyasi encouraged her to return to school.
She took a short course in 2022 and was fortunate to secure a job as a sales agent after graduation.
“In 2022, she got a job as a sales lady. She was earning something, and that’s when life changed and problems began,” he shared.
According to Pastor Manyasi, Brenda began staying out late, returning home without explanation, and often denying him conjugal rights.
Her fashion sense changed, and she started talking to other men, claiming they were “just friends.” At this point, Manyasi had enough and sought help from their best couple to intervene and mediate their issues.
However, the situation took a turn when Brenda accused him of physically abusing her. Sadly, the best couple sided with Brenda, demanding that Manyasi apologise for his actions.
“She cried and told them that I wasn’t paying rent, buying food, and that if she failed to cater for those bills, I would beat her every day. She even claimed I threatened to kill her and said I was demanding dowry from her parents,” he explained.
Despite the false claims, Manyasi apologised and even called Brenda’s parents to seek forgiveness for asking for dowry.
His goal was to restore peace and ensure their child was well cared for by both parents. However, this did not resolve their marital issues.
Brenda began sleeping in the sitting room and stopped serving in her husband’s church.
“When she was asked why she wasn’t attending her own husband’s church, she claimed I locked her in the house and warned her not to attend services,” he said.
A few weeks later, Brenda packed her belongings, took their child, and moved into their best man’s house.
According to Manyasi, the best man’s wife worked in a different county and was rarely at home, leaving Brenda alone with him.
This is how their relationship reportedly began. “I called the pastor who officiated our wedding and explained what was happening, but he dismissed me.
He said they were handling other things and I should speak to the best man to resolve the issue,” Manyasi recalled.
